Comments on: Dating Is Not for “The Frail” http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409 Love in the 21st Century Fri, 28 May 2010 02:32:04 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: kevin http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-417 kevin Sat, 10 Apr 2010 00:24:39 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-417 i'm in this band you speak of and just ran into this blog. it's absolutely hilarious. i’m in this band you speak of and just ran into this blog. it’s absolutely hilarious.

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]]> By: Anon http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-114 Anon Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:25:26 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-114 I agree with one of the other posters that dating is like a job interview. Both parties are being fake (generally speaking). Warts aren't revealed until later on. That's why I think meeting people in bars or clubs is not a good idea because you don't get to see their true selves. It's all a facade. It's much better to meet people when they're not trying to be attractive. The only question is how & where. I agree with one of the other posters that dating is like a job interview. Both parties are being fake (generally speaking). Warts aren’t revealed until later on. That’s why I think meeting people in bars or clubs is not a good idea because you don’t get to see their true selves. It’s all a facade. It’s much better to meet people when they’re not trying to be attractive. The only question is how & where.

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]]> By: CoreyTess http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-109 CoreyTess Sun, 08 Nov 2009 10:39:34 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-109 Great post! I love to talk about dating, but I never do it. LOL. I am perpetually single and believe that love will need to hit me over the head with that knotty club and drag me into a dark cave one day! Dates are like job interviews, with both parties deciding if the other is right for the position, or just a temporary fill in for the permanent candidate. Job interviews are stressful, anxious, fake versions of yourself, where you put forward only your very best traits and completely disregard and in some cases even lie about your worst ones just to get into something you really think you want, but have no idea is really going to make you happy or miserable after a few months.. when you will start interviewing on the sly for a new "job"! Yea, I am with you.. dating is a pretty scary business! Great post! I love to talk about dating, but I never do it. LOL. I am perpetually single and believe that love will need to hit me over the head with that knotty club and drag me into a dark cave one day! Dates are like job interviews, with both parties deciding if the other is right for the position, or just a temporary fill in for the permanent candidate. Job interviews are stressful, anxious, fake versions of yourself, where you put forward only your very best traits and completely disregard and in some cases even lie about your worst ones just to get into something you really think you want, but have no idea is really going to make you happy or miserable after a few months.. when you will start interviewing on the sly for a new “job”!

Yea, I am with you.. dating is a pretty scary business!

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]]> By: A Lau http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-103 A Lau Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:58:19 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-103 "...and I wonder why people would participate in this activity that seems to leave more bruises and scars than a game of rugby against the All Blacks." -- Perhaps it's programmed into our DNA that we simply are addicted to hope. “…and I wonder why people would participate in this activity that seems to leave more bruises and scars than a game of rugby against the All Blacks.” — Perhaps it’s programmed into our DNA that we simply are addicted to hope.

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]]> By: SFGirl http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-94 SFGirl Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:16:41 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-94 Very funny article! I can't agree with you more on the archaic dating ritual that seems so contrived. To quote Friedrich Neitzsche,"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." We can probably replace "marriage" and find that it is the same for any relationship, i.e. friendship first = happiness. The point of dating should not be about romantic compatibility or interest, it should be about fostering a new friendship. Not only does that take the pressure off of the dating, it's through that friendship that one may find a happy relationship and/or marriage and even if no relationship or marriage come out of it, you have at least made your life a little more colorful with a new friend. :-) Very funny article! I can’t agree with you more on the archaic dating ritual that seems so contrived. To quote Friedrich Neitzsche,”It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” We can probably replace “marriage” and find that it is the same for any relationship, i.e. friendship first = happiness.

The point of dating should not be about romantic compatibility or interest, it should be about fostering a new friendship. Not only does that take the pressure off of the dating, it’s through that friendship that one may find a happy relationship and/or marriage and even if no relationship or marriage come out of it, you have at least made your life a little more colorful with a new friend. :-)

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]]> By: Lisa http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-71 Lisa Wed, 30 Sep 2009 17:07:15 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-71 Great article and well stated... dating is not for the frail. Great article and well stated… dating is not for the frail.

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]]> By: Majikate http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-68 Majikate Wed, 30 Sep 2009 05:24:00 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-68 Just a note on the "excitement" that dating can bring... http://www.apple.com/trailers/independent/blinddate/ Yes it's a bit out there, but I agree with Victoria in that some people do find the seduction bit exciting. I am indeed frail and am not always up for the bruising of my ego after dates go awry, however, the seduction part is truly thrilling, and when it's over...I'm not sure what would keep me interested. Perhaps, like "Blind Date" (though hopefully under completely different circumstances), going on dates with your partner would be a happy medium to bring the thrill back into day-to-day "comfortable" relationships? Just a note on the “excitement” that dating can bring…
http://www.apple.com/trailers/independent/blinddate/

Yes it’s a bit out there, but I agree with Victoria in that some people do find the seduction bit exciting.
I am indeed frail and am not always up for the bruising of my ego after dates go awry, however, the seduction part is truly thrilling, and when it’s over…I’m not sure what would keep me interested.

Perhaps, like “Blind Date” (though hopefully under completely different circumstances), going on dates with your partner would be a happy medium to bring the thrill back into day-to-day “comfortable” relationships?

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]]> By: Tim http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-67 Tim Wed, 30 Sep 2009 05:13:59 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-67 Nice! I am so that guy. Not the one on the date, the one who draws in women like a moth to a flame. LOL. Anyway, great article. Nice! I am so that guy. Not the one on the date, the one who draws in women like a moth to a flame. LOL. Anyway, great article.

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]]> By: Victoria http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-65 Victoria Tue, 29 Sep 2009 12:16:25 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-65 Great article! Really funny and so so true! However some people actually find that the seduction game you refer to is what is most exciting in relationships and then get completely bored when the relationship gets to the comfortable "we know each other, companion" stage. Others, on the contrary strive during that comfortable stage. The trick is to find a mate that feels the same during the same stage... Yeah, I know, we never said it was easy! Great article! Really funny and so so true! However some people actually find that the seduction game you refer to is what is most exciting in relationships and then get completely bored when the relationship gets to the comfortable “we know each other, companion” stage. Others, on the contrary strive during that comfortable stage. The trick is to find a mate that feels the same during the same stage… Yeah, I know, we never said it was easy!

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]]> By: Meg http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409&cpage=1#comment-66 Meg Mon, 28 Sep 2009 20:30:12 +0000 http://loveinthe21stcentury.net/?p=409#comment-66 Hello All, According to Dr. Seuss, "When you are in love, you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams." I beg to differ. For me, the anxiety resulting from being in love (or from dating) is more like a stomach ache that keeps me awake all night. Anyway, here's a light and comical piece on dating. Daters beware... It is definitely not an activity recommended for all (at least not for me). Hope you enjoy this! Meg Hello All,

According to Dr. Seuss, “When you are in love, you can’t fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams.” I beg to differ. For me, the anxiety resulting from being in love (or from dating) is more like a stomach ache that keeps me awake all night.

Anyway, here’s a light and comical piece on dating. Daters beware… It is definitely not an activity recommended for all (at least not for me).

Hope you enjoy this!

Meg

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